Couples! Listen up!!!!

When I talk about relationships, anger, and self esteem in my training seminars I almost always have someone come up to me and say; "Boy I wish my spouse was here to hear this".

With the divorce in America at an all time high of 50% for first, 67% second and 74% for the third, we need our spouses to listen and listen carefully!

If you don't take a long hard look at the condition of your relationship you may wind up on the wrong side of these statistics and not only will you and your spouse suffer your children WILL also suffer for it! And if you have children, you are teaching them how couples are supposed to act and treat each other! Stop taking each other for granted and Stop thinking that everything is fine just because you don't hear your partner complain! Relationships do not fall apart over night, they are like anything else, it sometimes takes years of neglect before the damage becomes evident.

Today; as a matter of fact right now, start examining your relationship and since you may not have asked yourself the following questions let me help you;


Do you still hold hands when you walk together?
Do you still hug each other during the day?
Do you think of ways to put a smile on their face?
When was the last time you felt those "Butterflies" when you looked in their eyes?
When was the last time you wrote a love letter?

Did I stir something up inside of you? If so Good!

If you know the passion has been waining in your relationship do something about it!
If you know someone who needs help in their relationship, Help them.

If it will help, download a copy of my book and send it to them. (Read it yourself first!)

It is less than a price of a Latte' and you can get it here: http://www.bobwagner.org/Passionbuilder.htm

Whatever you do folks! If we really want to be successful in life and if we really want to be a good witness, we need to have our relationships healthy.

I will do my part, please do yours?

Let's hear your comments!

Are we quenching greatness in ourselves and our children? I think so.

The more I see people try to conform to the status quo, the more I see them quench their greatness and the more I see parents try to raise up an average child, the more I see them quench their greatness.

There is no such thing as an average person! We were not meant to be the same as everyone else. We were designed to be different; each of us having our own unique personalities, skills, gifts and traits. These differences when allowed to function without hindrances often result in greatness being displayed.

When that young computer geek is allowed to drop out of college and pursue that bigger than life dream to have a computer in every home we get Microsoft.

When that young boy is allowed to express himself freely by playing golf more than hitting the books, you get the Tiger Woods.

When the young girl with the overwhelming past is allowed to do what is inside of her, you get the Oprah Winfrey's.

When the young man with a message inside is allowed and encouraged to share it, you get the Billy Graham's and you get the Elvis Presley's when those with a beat in their spirit are allowed to pursue the passion inside of them.

But what do I see?
I see the child who has a lot of energy and who jumps up and down with enthusiasm about an answer get classified as ADHD and given medicine. They then can't wait to get out of school.

I see teens with the dream of something big be it acting or singing being told to come down to reality and get a real job, fall into a 9-5 they can' stand.

I also see men and women who fall into the average life of status quo America settling for less than they deserve or even want.

Men and women who trade their dreams of seeing the world for a rocking chair because they are told to act their age and for some reason they feel they should.

Men and women who want to start that restaurant, or open that store who don't because someone said they should sit and enjoy their golden years.

Folk we are different! Children are different! rather than focusing so much on what we believe are weaknesses, why not focus on their strengths and their passions. So what if a child never gets higher than a "C" in English. Maybe they are the next best Architect or Builder of their generation. So what if Grandma and Grandpa wants to start a business at 65, maybe they will start a Franchise like KFC as Colonel Sanders did.

Yes! Most definitely help each other grow in the areas they struggle with, but spend more time helping them soar in their strengths! Encourage them to live a life without regrets!

As for you; Follow that dream! Pursue that Passion, no matter how old you are!

In the comment section, why not dare to tell us your dreams and then tell us what is holding you back! Who knows maybe someone reading it will have the missing piece you are looking for!

A Child Shall Lead Them.

Wednesday I became a grandfather for the first time to a beautiful 8lb 14oz little girl. While my son and daughter in-law kept telling me they were going to have a daughter I would jokingly tell them, no its a boy. The longer the pregnancy went on past her due date, the more I would say, "It's because he is a late bloomer and needs a little more time to develop". Today I saw her for the first time. I sat on the couch for over an hour doing nothing; just sitting there allowing this gift from heaven to sleep on my chest. I must tell you, I haven't "just sat" anywhere for a long time. This joyful experience led me to write today's Blog.

When was the last time you did nothing? I mean really nothing? No books, no Ipods, no TV's, no cell phones, no email. Nothing. When was the last time you just sat and enjoyed each other? Not thinking of work, the yard, the clothes or the bills; just each other. When was the last time you talked? Talked about the past, the present and yes even the future? When was the last time you shared your dreams and even your fears? When was the last time you planned fun into your life?

If we aren't careful we may find ourselves spending more time running after things than we should. We can spend more time cleaning and cooking for our our loved ones than we do laughing, crying and learning with them. We can spend more time preparing for their future than we do enjoying their present.

Life is about doing our best to become our best so that we can develop the gifts and talents we have into skills and to use those skills to make this world a better place...... starting at home with the ones we love and then sharing them with others.

This week why don't you take a minute and think about your loved ones? When was the last time you enjoyed them and when was the last time they enjoyed you? Really enjoyed?

A successful life has balance. Balance between what we do for a living and who we are. It's about having a solid personal life and a strong professional life; each one complimenting the other, never competing. Your professional life should be a tool that brings joy, happiness and comfort to your personal life and your personal life should be one that allows for growth and development in your profession. When they compete it is because they are out of balance.

My granddaughter reminded me that life is about balance and we all need to slow down once in a while to enjoy the blessings God has already given us before we start looking for more.

Happy Birthday Alayna Nicole Wagner and thanks for the lesson in life.

G-Bob